How to Squirt: A Step-by-Step Guide for Women

No rule says there’s one way to orgasm, and — for most people with internal genitals — it’s OK to prefer a combination of efforts. Finding what works for you can take time, so be patient. Instead of bobbing up and down, try moving back and forth to stimulate the G spot region against your inner vaginal wall. Mixing it up can also help, so don’t be afraid to experiment with different speeds and angles.

During climax, when you do have an increase in the amount of secretions that are built up, and then during ejaculation, some of that can be released. There are some women that obviously can do more than others, but it doesn’t necessarily mean that it’s better. It’s a big topic that I have with some of my patients, because I think women feel that they have to do this. But, that’s actually something that has come about because of social perception, which I think actually comes from pornography.

Your girl wants to ejaculate, so one or both of you set out to stimulate her G-spot and make it happen. She’s comfortable and aroused, and she feels the need to pee arise. You’re in the shower or have put a towel on the bed, so she’s not worried about whether it’s pee (or doesn’t care as long as it feels good). We already mentioned a few toys that people say help with squirting, but the best advice is to look for toys that feel best for you. Some people like to put direct pressure on the G-Spot/urethral sponge, while it can be uncomfortable for others. But stimulating the G-Spot isn’t the only way to achieve a squirting orgasm.

As you start to have sex, she kneels down and pushes her feet back and together. You can grab her thighs while she supports her weight on your chest. To hit her g-spot more easily, place a pillow or cushion under her hips. This will tilt her pelvis upwards which also makes it easier for you to stimulate her clit. If she wants to lay back and relax while also being able to stimulate her clit, this position is just what you need. These curved devices sit comfortably in the vagina placing pressure in the exact right spot.

There is simply no way to target your clitoris any better, as any woman who has used a wand vibrator before can certainly attest to. When massaging your partner’s G-spot, it’s important not to use too much force because that can be uncomfortable for her. As you curl your fingers inward, apply firm pressure to her G-spot. Release this pressure as you straighten your fingers, and then gradually increase the pressure again as you curl them back inward. As you slide your fingers inside, gently curl them toward her pubic bone to apply pressure to the area around her G-spot. After about a minute of stimulation, slowly withdraw your middle finger and prepare to insert both your middle and ring fingers together.

Some people can squirt or ejaculate before or after an orgasm. Squirting can also happen at the same time as an orgasm. Some people also have multiple spurts of squirting spread over a few minutes. A recent study has shown that there is a difference between squirting, female ejaculation, and incontinence during sex. However, the term squirting is used to describe all three in everyday language.

Listen, multiple orgasms are amazing, but if it feels like you’re just ticking off a checklist, it’s going to feel hollow. We want to feel connected, not just physically, but emotionally. The clitoris and G-spot are powerhouses of pleasure, but overdoing it can actually shut things down.

When we see it, we then have the expectation that all women should do that because men see that and think, oh wow. It has been projected as normal or indicating that the sex was good. Female ejaculation is a fairly common experience, but not something that gets talked about very often. To compare how to make a women squirt, just think of how many phrases there are for male ejaculation! Show your pelvic floor muscles the respect they deserve. The most superficial layer of your pelvic floor is made of small muscles that play a big role in sexual function.

Meg, a 40-year-old, cis bisexual woman in Brooklyn, said that having her partners touch her all over during sex helps her get there. “Once we’re having sex, clitoral and nipple stimulation, followed by intense penetration (of any kind), leads to [me] squirting enough to soak the mattress,” she said. When this G-spot is stimulated repeatedly, the body goes into overdrive with pleasure and sends a signal to the kidneys.

There’s nothing worse than a letdown after a few minutes of action. When you’re in control of your stamina, you have more time to focus on your partner—more time to make eye contact, add a little extra thrust, and really bring the pleasure. This is how you guarantee a memorable experience for both of you. Edging isn’t just about holding off—it makes your eventual orgasm feel way more intense and powerful. If you’re chasing that mind-blowing finish, this is how you get there.