How to Use a Vibrator: Tips From Sex and Wellness Experts

While in some cases, you get what you pay for viberators, “there absolutely are sex toys for under $50 that are safe and well-made,” says Wright. Many of the budget-friendly options below are great for beginners, as luxury toys can have too many intimidating bells and whistles. It’s only about the size of a pinky (3.35 inches) and has 15 vibration patterns for a wide range of sensations.

Hermann Rorschach might have told me I’m more inclined to see and feel these likenesses in the Connaisseur MJ (I’m genuinely captivated by the beauty of Rickenbackers and Martins). But style is a big part of what sets the Connaisseur MJ apart , and you don’t need an inkblot test to know that the Godin Connaisseur MJ is a handsome, well-built, and fine-playing flattop. You can improvise your own sleeve by finding a cylinder of some kind that fits comfortably on your penis (toilet paper rolls are a common choice) and then lining it with a material of your choice. Some people use spongy materials for the lining, some use latex gloves, etc. Some folks prefer to skip the more involved sleeves and use a sock or banana peel instead.

Those who prefer direct pressure should opt for a pinpoint or bullet vibrator, while others may like more diffused vibrations that spread across the vulva, which can be achieved by most wand vibes, grinding toys, and palm vibes. If receiving oral sex is your favorite way to get off, consider a clit suction toy or oral sex stimulator. Our best suction toy and our highest scoring vibrator overall, the Next uses innovative 3D pleasure air technology to produce slow, pulsating sensations our testers loved.

“Find a setting you think is fun and use it on different parts of your body to see how it feels. Remember, there’s no ‘right’ way to pleasure yourself.” Solo sex not only helps you figure out what gives you pleasure but helps you feel more confident during partnered sex, which can lead to more fulfilling and healthy relationships. Dr. Lincoln adds that there’s no risk of sexually transmitted infections or pregnancy with masturbation. The Laya III’s C-shape allows it to cup your entire vulva hands-free (so you can focus on using those elsewhere). Pressure or friction in that area can be intensely satisfying,” says Shannon.

The fixed tail keeps it in just the right place and at just the right angle for the kind of O’s you really deserve. “Solo play allows for leaning into pleasure without having to think about anything else. It’s a good opportunity to find out for yourself what your pleasure potential is and how you get there. This can be really empowering,” explains Rachel Zar, LMFT, CST, a relationship and sex therapist at Spark Chicago Therapy and Northwestern Medicine Center for Sexual Medicine & Menopause. All the tone in the world doesn’t mean much if a guitar plays like a log.

In addition, it holds its charge for up to 6 hours and can sync to music for unlimited vibration patterns. With a price tag of $69 (currently on sale for $59), the Ambi remote control bullet vibrator has features commonly found in higher-end toys. It keeps its charge for up to 4 hours, has 30 levels/pattern combinations, and is water-resistant. In this post, we’ll share the 17 best remote control vibrators you can use to take your encounters to the next level. As Shepherd mentions, care must be taken to avoid preventable problems.

I set it up next to my bed with the help of my girlfriend, who knows more about cables than I do. It was a full moon in Scorpio, the sign of sex, so I felt extra enthusiastic about giving it a go. Gigi Engle is a certified sex coach, educator, and writer living in Chicago. Customers have mixed opinions about the massager’s speed, with some appreciating the variable speed feature while others find the very low speed unsatisfactory. Customers have mixed opinions about the massager’s weight, with some appreciating that it’s light enough to handle with clients, while others find it slightly heavy.

The Tracey Cox EDGE Maximum Control Adjustable Stamina Ring is a fan favorite. It may not look like a traditional model, with its slide-to-fit, adjustable ring, but it allows anyone with a penis to achieve a snug, effective fit. If you purchase an independently reviewed product or service through a link on our website, SheKnows may receive an affiliate commission. When you are ready for penetration, however, Jawed-Wessel recommends trying a toy that is narrower and shorter than what you were used to pre-birth. We recommend riding one of these grinders if you’re sensitive to direct or focused stimulation. You can set them up on the floor or your bed or even lay them on top of your usual couch arm (we won’t tell).

While I came really hard using the Motobunny, I have to admit that I felt equal parts silly and like the queen of the world masturbating by sitting on a saddle next to my bed. People with penises may want to consider this stroker mount for some hands-free action. Slip your favorite Fleshlight into the slot, get on top, and go to town. It may seem pricey, especially given that you must buy a Fleshlight separately, but it holds well up to thrusting and is a much classier solution than jamming your Fleshlight between your mattress and your box spring. For new sexplorers, try starting on the lowest intensity setting and increasing as desired. Play around with Puff’s position, orientation, pressure, and intensity to find a spot that works for you!